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Love Is a Verb (An Action Word): The Anatomy of Sustainable and Self-Honoring Love
There’s a kind of love many of us were trained to chase—loud, urgent, intoxicating. The kind that spikes your nervous system, hijacks your focus, and convinces you that anxiety means you’ve found “the one.”
And then there’s another kind of love: the kind that doesn’t require you to abandon yourself.
If you’ve ever thought, I want to love fully and freely, but felt torn between longing and fear, you are not alone. Many of us want deep connection and companionship—

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19 hours ago6 min read


Stand Down: When fixing and rescuing people can be a trauma response that has outlasted its welcome
If you’re exhausted from being the one who anticipates needs, smooths problems, carries emotions, and solves life for other grown people—this is your invitation to stand down.
Not because you don’t care. Not because you’ve stopped loving. But because somewhere along the way, “helping” became overfunctioning—and overfunctioning became the price of connection and belonging.
For many of us, fixing isn’t a personality trait. It’s a survival skill we learned early: keeping the p

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Jan 1111 min read


Crisis and Grief Don’t Erase Injury or Boundaries
A death in the family can soften us. It can bring up nostalgia, regret, tenderness, and longing. And still—grief doesn’t erase boundaries. Loss does not automatically repair what was broken, and it does not require you to reopen access to people who repeatedly ignored your “no.” Compassion is real. But compassion does not mean self-abandonment.
For many of us—especially adult survivors of emotionally immature family systems, addiction patterns, or long-standing scapegoating—

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Dec 21, 202510 min read


Holiday Blues: Navigating Expectations, Trauma, and Disappointment -Rewriting your story, creating new practices of self-care, and curating traditions that honor you
It’s easy to pathologize ourselves this time of year: “Why am I so down?”“Everyone else seems happy.”“I should be over this by now.” But holidays can be anniversary dates for a lot of pain: The first holiday without someone you love. The tenth holiday that still aches. The season you finally accepted that reconciliation may never come. The year you chose distance from family for your own safety. Your body remembers what your mind tries to file away. Smells, songs, decorations

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Nov 30, 202512 min read


The Anatomy of an Affirmation
A visual reminder of what affirmation makes possible giving voice to what trauma may have silenced. They return us to self-worth, gently...

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Aug 13, 20256 min read


Don’t Explain: The Courage to Create Without Permission or Perfection
Learn how to protect your light, create without permission or perfection, and grow on your own terms with trauma-informed healing strategies.

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Jul 20, 20256 min read


Reclaiming Creativity After Adversity: A Guide to Creative Self-Care
It is not uncommon for trauma survivors to feel disconnected from creativity.

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Jul 7, 20254 min read


The Unsung Power of Discipline: Moving beyond the ups and downs of Motivation and inspiration
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” – Lao Tzu Success Requires Discipline We often praise and admire successful...

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Oct 31, 202316 min read
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