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There’s a kind of love many of us were trained to chase—loud, urgent, intoxicating. The kind that spikes your nervous system, hijacks your focus, and convinces you that anxiety means you’ve found “the one.” And then there’s another kind of love: the kind that doesn’t require you to abandon yourself. If you’ve ever thought, I want to love fully and freely, but felt torn between longing and fear, you are not alone. Many of us want deep connection and companionship—

A death in the family can soften us. It can bring up nostalgia, regret, tenderness, and longing. And still—grief doesn’t erase boundaries. Loss does not automatically repair what was broken, and it does not require you to reopen access to people who repeatedly ignored your “no.” Compassion is real. But compassion does not mean self-abandonment. For many of us—especially adult survivors of emotionally immature family systems, addiction patterns, or long-standing scapegoating—

We talk a lot about grieving death, but very little about grieving the life we thought we’d have: the loving parents, the safe relationships, the reciprocated effort, the dream that never materialized. This article names those invisible losses—family betrayal, self-sacrifice, emotional lifting—and offers a trauma-informed path toward self-trust, untethering, and gratitude. It’s an invitation to stop abandoning yourself for others, and to begin honoring the life that is still

Holding “Both/And”: The Sacred and Expansive Work of Healing What if healing wasn’t about getting over it… but exploring the complexity of holding pain while seeking and curating joy? This blog post is a gentle invitation into a more expansive way of healing — one that honors grief, disappointment, and heartbreak while also nurturing creativity, beauty, and aliveness. It’s about embracing the sacred “both/and” of our human experience. You’ll meet two women — Ava and Dina —